As I sit at my desk to write something on the last day of this year, I realise that I do not care much for New Year’s Eve[s]. Looking around, I see most of the celebrations have boiled down to booze parties and obnoxious dances. These constituents always seem to disturb me a bit, just like the Valentine’s Day, where people are often desperately trying to convince themselves they’re having a good time.
I would rather walk a mile out of my way to avoid the company of people who use “party” as a verb.
Also many people attach too much hype and use fancy terms such as ‘new year resolutions’ as if to change their lives for the better.
But change is a constant process and not something that happens overnight. For someone to say that his or her New Year resolution is, for instance, to be a better person is at best hopeful but probably also a bit deceitful.
Many people make New Year’s resolutions ever year but very few stick to them. In fact, within a week or two most people who made the resolution have forgotten what they promised on December 31. However, as the new year is a fresh start [hypothetically], a chance to try something new or give something up, making a resolution could be a sensible way to actually make a change, particularly if realistic goals are set.
Resolutions involve us moving our goals from mere contemplation into more concrete action, my grandfather always said, and hence I am not as averse to new year resolutions, only when I’m convinced I can ‘keep’ them.
So, in 2018, if I have to make a New Year resolution it would be to choose gratitude and happiness over complaining, try reading motivational books, write my blogs, stay away from negative people and thoughts, bring more discipline in my life and work and experience life as it happens. Most importantly, spend more time with my loved ones.
Which bring me to New Year’s Eve celebrations. I have often wondered why some people are prepared to spend so much money on a celebration. Quite often, the celebration happens in the company of hundreds of strangers and you find yourself, on the stroke of midnight, wishing people you have never seen before or will never see again.
With time, one begins to appreciate true friendship and family a lot more and enjoys spending time with your loved ones even more. And, in the process, what if we made a resolution to practice more love and kindness to others?
Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” While we complain about the hate and violence that occurs every day, let’s do our part. Love more. Judge less.
Happy New Year. May all your best wishes come true in 2018.