Soul mates and soul-level appointments

Soul mates – The topic came up after a long time when I met an old friend over coffee last evening. She got a bit nostalgic after entering a heritage café in Park Street. She recalled the time when she was in college and met somebody for the first time on a date at the same place. “On our first visit, it felt electric and amazing. I was sure that I was fated to meet him and felt a real deep connection with this person…” she said to me, lost in some distant thought. Those days, she thought they were ‘soul mates’. It’s a different thing that the duo were not meant to be together in the traditional sense, but I too remembered her amazingly high level of energy and enthusiasm which got reflected in the many things she said and did then, thanks to that special somebody, short-lived but a change agent in her life. That was way back in our college days!

In fact as I tried recalling her past, I could completely relate to what she said from my own unique experiences. In our lifetime, we do come across one or more people, with whom we feel a special connect. With the coming of those people at some point of time in our lives, we tend to believe that everything we do is charged with a strong energy and that life has become a little special from what it used to be before. I’m sure many of us have witnessed meeting somebody by chance but strangely meeting this person turns out to be like meeting a dear old friend after a very long time apart. As soon as you meet, you discover having so much in common.

A few years back, I read an interesting article on Soul mates in Reader’s Digest. The author explains that there are many kinds of soul connections we can have with people. Before we incarnate, we make ‘appointments’ and agreements with certain souls. Usually we pick out the souls with whom we will have important relationships – both short-lived ones and long-term ones. the author explains that you can meet more than one soul mate in a lifetime and that somebody may not be your life partner in most cases (Unlike the way they show in commercial films). The reason why you make those soul-level agreements to meet up some people is because you want to exchange energy and teach each other a little something through your interaction, at a specific time in your life, or for a more prolonged period. According to the author when you keep your soul-level ‘appointment’ with someone, both of you exchange energy.


Before we incarnate, we make appointments with certain souls

A special somebody taught me the art of precision. I mastered this art from him besides several other things in the few months we were fated to spend together. May be he taught me subconsciously, but to me it was like a charged event – the type of energy I got then led to some kind of awakening in me. Perhaps – going by the Reader’s Digest article – I can say with poise that I must have also taught him a thing or two unknowingly in the brief time we encountered which he too will remember.

But does that mean I had already set up an appointment to meet up in this life – never mind if it’s short-lived. I once asked a friend who is clued up in these matters whether ‘that someone is a soul mate’ and she too replied: he could be one of your soul-mates. There could have been some others in the past and some more awaiting!!!

In the book titled, Twelve Years with Sri Aurobindo, Nirodbaran the scribe said that it’s possible that we make soul-level agreements with people we’ve known in past lives. He mentioned: “sometimes a soul will be very familiar to us because we’ve met before. We move in ‘soul families’. Your nearest and dearest spirits, those we have a lot in common with, tend to be those who have agreed to incarnate with you and keep you company here and this also includes animals and other living beings. These souls can also remain separated either on a temporary or permanent basis and when in relationship, they may continue to have conflicts due to their past Karma.

In this context I should also mention a blog I was going through some time back – that says soul mates come in a variety of categories – something like Karmic soul mates from whom we learn. They change us in a way that was required at specific moments in our lives. They force us into growth situations through several good and bitter moments, they rarely stay in our lives forever but are forever remembered for the lessons they teach us. Then there are companion soul mates, people who help us accomplish some goal and are here to assist us with a special purpose or even in our daily lives for encouragement and support. They offer a mutual gift of learning, sharing and help even in a brief encounter. Then you have what is called twin soul mates – people who have shared a special bond of friendship and love in many lifetimes. Meeting a twin soul mate is like running into a good friend you have not seen in years. There is a connection, and comfortable feeling and you almost seem to pick up the relationship right where it left off in a previous lifetime. We recognize a twin soul mate as someone with all the characteristics of a companion soul mate but with a much stronger and more lasting bond between you. The blog author says, twin soul mates usually are close family members, special friends, and people who understand you completely and do not judge you the same way others do. Among them, there are one or two with whom you may share a spiritual and almost psychic connection. Very often we do not even need words to communicate with them because your souls are in tune on telepathic levels and you almost intuitively know their feelings.

These are intricate subjects and go beyond scientific logic and explanations. But to meet and match up with your soul mates if they exist, I guess is fantastic and we should keep the search on…!


9 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Norin Paul on April 28, 2013 at 8:58 am

    Yes i believe in soul mates and have found a few people till today who gave me the feeling that i’d known them since ages. So I relate to what you conveyed. Nice reading.


  2. Posted by Sudeshna on April 28, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    In life we are always going through transitions and phases. Someone could be “the one” for right now, where we are at this particular moment in our lives, and we should take care to enjoy them. So the answer to the question “Is s/he the one? Are they my soul mate?” has a lot to do with where you are emotionally, intellectually, and physically. But that’s why I believe your best friend is your soul mate. No matter where you go or what you do your best friend always sees the best in you, even when you are a hot ass mess.


    • Posted by Soho on May 4, 2013 at 9:47 am

      That’s indeed a very interesting observation Sudeshna. I know best friends are special gifts of God 🙂


  3. Posted by Rishab Roy on April 29, 2013 at 2:43 pm

    These are some lofty concepts, I know. but the greatest love we can find is within ourselves. Once we achieve that, then we are truly a gift to others when we give ourselves in a relationship, whether that be to a friend, relative or “soul favorite”.


    • Posted by Shampa on May 3, 2013 at 9:12 pm

      Yes…very true!! When we can connect to the love within us..we are truly a gift! And as they say, “when you fall in love with yourself, the entire world falls in love with you.” 🙂


  4. Posted by Prasenjit Das on April 29, 2013 at 6:28 pm

    This blog is soooo goood! So well researched, informative and interesting! And I could so connect with it! Thanks for penning such a wonderful article and sharing with us 🙂


  5. Posted by Shampa on May 3, 2013 at 9:07 pm

    Amazing blog post. Loved it! Yes…i also believe in soul mates n soul level connections. Do read the book “Many lives many masters” by Dr Brian Weiss. Follow this up with “Only love is real” by the same author. You will be fascinated.. Nothing is random here and nothing is a coincidence.. Everyone we meet we were destined to meet as we have something to learn/teach or both or maybe to just share this lifetime.
    Reading about soul mates n past lives is immensely fascinating and liberating too.
    Once again great post!! :))
    Books by Brian Weiss gave me an amazing insight into life and relationships.


    • Posted by Soho on May 4, 2013 at 9:45 am

      Thanks for your insights Shampa. 🙂 Sure I’ll read the two books you suggested. It’s always fascinating to get feedback from someone like you who’s so much aware of such topics.


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